What would it be like to live in a world where everyone loved themselves?
Now, I don't mean egotistical conceit. That's not love. I mean living among other humans who had self-compassion, self-acceptance, self-kindness, self-caring, self-respect, self-love. I mean living among human beings who motivated themselves through positive means rather than criticism, anger, fear and other negativity. Not possible you say. Well, I think it is, and I think it begins with each one of us. My interior reality creates the exterior reality. We are told that over and over. Today those saying it are scientists and quantum physicists.
So, when someone recently asked me how loving myself contributes to the world around me, I was surprised. How I feel about myself within, creates the reality I create around me. But, I guess everyone doesn't get all the aspects of loving oneself. Like self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-caring, self-compassion, self-kindness, self-respect -- to me these are all aspects of loving oneself. When you walk in the joy of self-acceptance and self-compassion, you automatically generate that in the world.
I'm a photographer as well as a healer and writer. I get the opportunity to see how folks react to photos of themselves all the time. Just yesterday I took a lovely photo of a woman at a networking event and then showed it to her on the LCD of my camera. She immediately began to find fault -- not with my photo but with her face. Do you do that, too? What about when you look in the mirror. What do you say about the person you see? Is it critical and judgmental or encouraging and compassionate.
We look in mirrors all day long. Every other person we see is a mirror. How we see them often mirrors how we see ourselves. And, how we see them often creates how they respond to us. Years ago in sociology I studied something called the "self-fulfilling prophesy" in Social Theory and Social Structure by Robert K. Merton. But he didn't originate it. He got it from W. I. Thomas who clearly got it from observing what went on around him. The whole idea can be traced back to the Ancient Greeks. It's just another way of saying "We create our own realities. What we expect to be so, will be so."
That leads me to the next question. What creates our expectations? My thought about that is that our interior environment creates the expectations. If our interior environment is one of self-acceptance that plays out in our exterior reality. If, on the other hand, that interior environment is one of self-criticism, self-pity, mistrust and vicitimizaition that's what we'll see in the world and create more of in the world.
Back to my earlier question. What would it be like to live in a world where everyone loves, respects and accepts themselves? It's my mission to contribute to that vision. Starting with myself and others who might like to join me. I don't pretend to have "made it" yet. I'm learning and growing and changing every day. Some say you teach what you need and desire to learn. And I'm certainly doing that. I've found several modalities that assist me to change the trauma and the negative beliefs I have about myself. I've also found that when I work with a group with these modalities we all benefit. The synergy of the group leads us to great growth than we would be able to accomplish on our own.
I've put together a whole curriculum on Loving Yourself to an Abundant Life. Part 1 of that program deals with Receiving and with Our Bodies. It is a 5-part teleclass and the program includes 2 private 45-minutes coaching sessions to work with each person individually as well as in the group. If you are interested, you can learn more by going here.
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The class begins on June 16, Tuesday evening at 6 pm and goes for 2 hours. The first class is on receiving and the ways we block the receiving process. Learn more here.
