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The Luxury of Watching Clouds Change

I experienced something today that seemed so abundant to me, so luxurious, so in fullness of the flow of life that I decided to write about it.  What was it?  I know, the title gave it away.  It was the luxury of watching clouds change. When was the last time  you did that?

I'm in Maui and had walked down to the beach with a friend.  There's a rock wall along the area in Kihei where we were and so we stopped and sat on the rocks.  I looked up and saw these wave clouds all in a row. Yes, I'm including a photo so you can see what a "wave cloud" looks like.  To us they were shaped like waves coming in.  And there was even a little grey cloud just above the mountain that reminded one of a fish.  We were witnessing the great ocean in the sky. At first there were 12, then 13 then 15.   

As we continued our conversation, I would occasionally glance up to the sky.  At first the waves were multiplying. Then they began to change shape. At one point they looked like rowers in a very long canoe. Then they began to move outward in a semi circle in an ever-enlarging circle that looked like rays of the sun.  Eventually they dissipated.   

Somewhere in the last few minutes of their existence I realized just how long it had been since I'd watched clouds change.  As I began to notice I felt the luxury of it.  Just to be able to sit, converse, watch the many different shapes emerge and flow above me and not have to run off some place or go get something done.  What an amazing luxury.  And as I acknowledged the luxury, the feeling came in even more fully.  It reminded me of being on my Manifesting In Motion Class this Morning.  I was sharing and one of those truths popped out.  I heard myself say, When you get present with the abundance in your life, more immediately comes to you.  Abundance attracts abundance.  Luxury attracts luxury. 

Love attracts love.  And, unfortunately, negativity attracts more of the same.  These are turbulent times.  Yes, I know I've said that before. I feel a turbulence in the energy around us.  We are really all feeling it.  And how you move in it, how you ride the rapids of this flow of life depends a lot of what you feel and think about yourself.  The more you love your self, the easier it will be.  Why, you might ask?  Because the more you love yourself, the more centered and present in now you are. And the more present in now you are, the harder it is to trigger you. 

So, if you are finding yourself getting caught up in the drama and emotion of these times, getting angry or upset with things pretty much outside your control then probably there's more work to do in the area of loving yourself.

Now as it happens, I have a 6-month transformational Program starting on May 22 called Loving Yourself to Abundance which is a combination of teleclasses, personal Theta and coaching sessions and ongoing practices to assist you to expand your capacity to love yourself and maintain it.  For more information, click here.  The cool think is you can pay by the month. 

How is Loving Yourself Connected to Abundance? Part 1

Recently I had a client ask me this question.  It surprised me because I see loving yourself as a key to a consciousness of abundance.  From my perspective they are totally connected. But, I'd never taken it apart, so I welcomed the question.  It began the following thought process which I expect will lead not only to more than more blog posts, but has also led me to offer a series of classes. 

What is loving yourself?  

Some simple answers to that are feeling good about yourself.  Being understanding and compassionate with yourself no matter what is going on inside or outside yourself. In my work, I see that most of us treat ourselves worse than we would treat our worst enemy.  We criticize, we judge, we constantly change the rules on ourselves, and often say harsh things. Certainly that is not loving ourselves, but I think in some twisted way we think it is.  I cannot think we would heap the criticism and judgment upon ourselves that we do, unless we thought it was accomplishing some higher goal. 

Oh, at this point if you are a reading this and you never judge, criticize, or second guess yourself, STOP reading this now.  Unless of course you have a friend that you feel is very hard on themselves.

What does judgment and criticism achieve?

Why would we judge, criticize and doubt ourselves?  Many might say it is the path to greater excellence, achievement and perfection.  Some might say that judgment is the only way we'll "get it right."  

What I've seen is that self-judgment, self criticism, the act of "trying to get it right"  disconnects us from a greater strength and energy.  Judgment and criticism are mental and analytical functions that actually interfere with the flow of life energy.  Look at a finely tuned athlete.  They can look at a film to see where they can improve.  But if even for a millisecond they stop to think about what they are doing wrong in the actual process of performing their athletic feat is takes them off stride, out of sync, away from the relaxation and flow off their best performance.  The pass receiver who takes his eye off the ball , the sprinter who tenses up because he thinks about his form, the ice skater who moves out of the flow for that fraction of a moment and lands off the edge all have something in common.  Their need to get it right jumps in so strongly that in fact, they tense up and get it wrong. The move out of the flow or another way to say it is they move out of the present. 

When we are loving ourselves we stay in the flow.   When we stay in the flow we have access to that greater part of ourselves that can manifest magic. 

When the joy is flowing, when things are going in a way that we judge to be "right" it's much easier to stay in a place of love and acceptance with ourselves.  But, what about those times when we are sure it is "something" we did that's making life the way it is.  And the way it is, is just NOT the way we want it to be? What about those times?  How do we stay in loving with ourselves at those moments.

And how is all this connected to abundance? 

The great abundance writers tell us one of the keys to having and manifesting what we desire it is be able to visualize what we want, what we desire, to feel it, hear it, smell it, taste it.  The Law of Attraction works through the feelings -- and the higher feelings of love and joy.  Self-judgment and criticism are not pathways to love and joy.  The are pathways to anxiety, fear, stress and tension.  The very feelings that interfere with manifesting our deepest desires; the very feelings that interfere with staying in a feeling of abundance.  

Do you have criticism going on a lot of the time in the background?  Thetahealing can find the sources of this and release it.  We judge and criticize ourselves because we have beliefs that it will achieve something greater.  IF we knew how to do better we would.  Theta sessions can assist you to re-write the software within so that you have more praise than criticism, more love and joy, than judgement.

Call me to learn more.  818-590-0062 

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Historic Pasadena Oak -- An Inspiration?

When I first discovered this oak,  I was walking in Eaton Canyon and had veered onto a side trail.  It was warm out, so I walked under a shady oak and stopped for a moment to enjoy the shade.  In the comfort of the shade I took the time to look around at what had made this almost gazebo-like spot.  There was green thriving oak all around and over me.  There was plenty of space underneath the tree to stand or sit on one of it's limbs.  At first it looked like a tall strong oak tree with several limbs that were growing along the ground.  Check out the video about this oak on my youtube site.

A second look brought into focus what was really here.  This tree had been totally uprooted, well not totally, but 85-90% of it's root base had been pulled out of the ground and the tree that was attached to that root was lying on the ground, which is what made such a wonderful seat.  And yet it was alive, and growing still.  Thriving was an even better word to describe it. Green leaves on downed and skyward limbs as well as new spring shoots.  As I looked even more closely I realized that at the base of the tree, just above the root, two strong limbs -- 12" or so in diameter -- worthy of being called trees themselves, had grown out of the side of the downed tree straight up to the sky. 

"This tree should be dead."  I thought to myself, "Trees usually die when this much of their root is ripped out of the ground."  Obviously the oak did not have these same beliefs.  It should have been dead or just barely surviving.  Instead, in what seems like a barren environment, it grew two new trees as well as nourishing all the limbs that had fallen to the ground.  I just stood staring at the Oak realizing what a message it had for me.  Whatever happens to you, triving is possible and doable. 

On my second visit to the oak, there was someone sleeping under it.  It was shelter someone else.  Since then I've shown it to at least one other person.  Yesterday I visited it again and saw something new.

My friend the oak has a lover.  An equally courageous sycamore who clearly was upended at the same time lies entwined with it.  When you view the video of this sycamore, you will see that it fell flat on the ground and it's main trunk just began growing in the direction of the light and the sky.

Quantum physics shows us that what you focus on you get more of.  Thus, the focus on Thriving.  However, a positive focus is much harder to maintain if there are limiting beliefs that are catalyzed and amplified by the fears around us.

What if those limiting beliefs can be changed into positive ones?  That's what I do, assist you to change any limiting beliefs that are blocking you from your Life Wishes and Desires.  This is a quick and easy process. If you want to know more, call me at 818-590-0062.  Want to sign up for a coaching package and get started right away, click here.