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ThanksGiving -- Thoughts on Giving and Receiving

Is it really better to give than to receive?  We are taught so.  We are told so.  Our parents and ministers and philosophers admonish us so.  In my work I have found that many of us hold this belief and take it one step further.  Within us we believe it is good to give and bad/wrong to receive because of these very teachings.  Even if we don't have it that strongly, we certainly focus on the giving rather than on receiving. 

Once in a team building training with a management team, I asked people to raise their hands if they felt they were good at giving.  Most everyone raised their hands though some were higher than others.  Then I asked them to raise their hand if there were good receivers.  Very few raised their hands, maybe 2 out of 23.  And even those hands were definitely at half mast.  We had a room full of givers and very few reluctant receivers.  In that case what happens when your boss or a client appreciates you.  What do you do if you have a feeling that receiving the appreciation is wrong?  Are you going to take it in or avert it somehow.  How does your boss or the client feel when you do that? 

The more I think about giving and receiving the more it puzzles me.  How did we get to these beliefs that giving is so good and receiving is the second class citizen.  Who does the giver give to if there’s no one to receive?  What is a quarterback going to do without a receiver?  Well, he can run it. But, even if he hands off the ball to a runner, that runner still has to receive the hand off and hold onto it. 

I wonder?  Is it better to breathe out than to breathe in?  Might not giving and receiving be a part of that same flow?  Where is the giver without a receiver.  If someone offers me their prize gift and I push it away, saying "Oh no, I couldn’t, to receive from you is bad," where does that leave the giver?  Now, of course we don’t really say that out loud, but if we have the belief in our consciousness that’s blocking true receiving, we might as well say,  "Why are you giving to me?  You know I can’t receive it, receiving is wrong."

When I was a little girl my Mom would tell me to refuse things that were offered when we were visiting people. She explained to me more than once that it was impolite to say yes if I was offered a piece of chocolate cake or apple pie or candy.  I could never understand this.  Someone had made a cake and they wanted to give me some of it.  I wanted to enjoy it.  Why was that impolite?  You can guess what happened.  I was a bit of a rebel so I always said yes.  I did remember to say Thank you.  That didn’t help my Mother look any less uncomfortable.  I thought it was a Southern thing, but I’ve heard the same from Northern folks, and western folks.  Recently I was working with a Chinese woman and she told me that she was always told by her mother to refuse what was offered at least 3 times.  She thought it was more of a Chinese cultural thing.  I replied to her that it was also a Southwestern Virginian thing and a Southern thing and on and on. Maybe it’s all over the world, this training to block receiving. 

Thanksgiving is here.  Think about the word.  Thanks Giving.  If we are giving thanks, what are we giving thanks for – things we’ve given or things we’ve received?  And who’s getting the thanks?  In order to give thanks, we must first receive.  If we are thanking God, we must first be open to receive from God, do we not? 

We must breathe in (receive) in order to breathe out (give) and we must breathe in again and then breathe out again.  Breathing is a dynamic flow that gives us life. Why are not giving and receiving given the same status? 

Recently a client (who at that moment was blocking receiving) said to me he’d be giving out dinners on Thanksgiving to homeless folks.  I felt his sincere desire to give, to bring someone else some happiness and joy and pleasure on this day.  As I saw the scene in my head, I also saw a grateful person saying "Thank You" back to him for the plate of food, and maybe "Thank You" for his very presence there on this day.  Now, the receiver was becoming the giver.  And the “Thank You” was their offering.  But, would the “giver” open and receive the “Thank You.”  That simple heartfelt “Thank you” might be all this homeless person had to offer.  And, might not the energy of that simple thank you carry with it joy, love, energy to lift and fuel another giving?  But what if there's a belief within that receiving is wrong?  What happens then.  The "Thank you" is deflected.  The giver just keeps giving without receiving and at some point becomes depleted and drained.  What if, receiving is the refueling for more giving.  And more giving inspires more receiving which refuels us to do more giving. 

Now that’s a ThanksGiving I want to be a part of.  Yes!  It’s like the flow of the Infinity sign.  It just doesn’t give out.  One contributes to the other.  Giving and receiving become a dynamic life giving flow.  One minute I’m the giver, the next the receiver opening and enjoying that in-breath, the next the giver, one refueling the other.

So what does a belief like "It is better to give than to receive" do to us?  We still receive some.  There’s token receiving for sure.  Someone genuinely receives from us and wants to show their gratitude and then we’re in trouble because all of a sudden we are the receivers position.  If we breathe out, what follows?  Breathing in.  And yet how do we breathe.  Many of us don’t breathe in fully, either. How many of us take those deep full belly breaths often.  What does breathing shallowly do to us.  It deprives us of oxygen, causes aging, the build up of stress, deterioration of the brain and many other maladies. 

I’m betting that deflecting receiving or receiving shallowly does the same thing. I’m wondering how many relationships are destroyed by shallow receiving.  Allison Armstrong (www.understandingmen.com) tells us that men love to make women happy, to give women pleasure.  And if we women have the belief it is better to give than receive or that receiving is wrong in some way, what happens then.  The energy of giving is deflected and probably both parties end up feeling unfulfilled.  I used to think I had to give back everything I got.  That didn’t leave a lot of time to just enjoy the sheer pleasure of being given to and to breathe in the fullness of the gift and the giver.  And what about what I have to give.  It is so delightful to have someone just receive and enjoy what I offer.  Unless of course, they won’t receive it. Ever offered someone a compliment and had them "refuse" it?  How did it feel to you? 

If it’s true in relationships, its probably true in business and careers as well.  Ever hear of burn out.  Often it’s from giving and giving and giving.  I did burn out years ago.  Worked my way from temporary typist to Vice President of a management consulting firm in 7 years and then worked 80 hours a week to maintain it.  I never stopped giving long enough to receive any appreciation or thanks for what I was doing.  And, I burned out.  Never wanted to go near another office again – and didn’t for years.  Right now I do a lot of work with people, and much of it is giving.  And in every moment of that giving, I’m receiving as well.  Enjoying the changes people are making, enjoying what I'm seeing and learning, enjoying that I get to do something I love and am passionate about while still receiving money. 

That brings up another issue.  Money.  It’s one of those major facilitators.  Having it can facilitate a lot of giving.  To get it you must receive.  Interesting, huh!  So we probably have caveats on receiving.  It’s all right to receive if I work hard, if I earn it, if I don’t enjoy it too much,etc.

I bet if you start thinking about this you can come up with examples, too.  Put them in the comments section below.  I’m sure there is some controversy out there about this.  And I assure you I’m open to receive it and enjoy that receiving.  Your comments will be a gift allowing me to explore this further. 

If you know your ability to receive fully is blocked and you are asking the Universe to assist you to manifest something new in your life, there may be a problem.  Remember than if you ask the universe for something, if you truly desire something, you must also be open to receive it.  Recently I’ve been doing articles about opening the runway so that your manifestations can land.  Being closed to receiving is like having no runway at all.  It’s like saying, I want this and receiving is bad so I can’t have it no matter how much I want it. 

At this point in this article, if you made it this far, you may be asking, So what do I do about this?  If the beliefs blocking the fullness of your receiving are not too deep or you are not too invested maybe this article can shift it.  Awareness sometimes does that.  Unfortunately most of us are taught these beliefs from an early age not only at home, but in churches and schools and everywhere else to.  So this is a deep one.  And ThetaHealing can excavate it rapidly and effectively, leaving you open to the full flow and joy of both giving and receiving.  If you want to know more about this, call me

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Happy Thanksgiving!  May you enjoy both the giving and the receiving.  One last thought.  If you are cooking, take time to enjoy the ones who are eating.  Receive their enjoyment of your efforts.  And if you are eating, enjoy that food, it's a way of giving to the cook.  And everyone, enjoy the bounty of this day, enjoy the love and peace around you, enjoy the friendship, the comraderies, the football, the cooking, the laughter.  Receive it fully!  Give your enjoyment fully!  Thank you for being in my life.

Clearing the Runways for your Manifestations to Land – Part II -- Beliefs

The energy of now, this day, this moment is coursing through me, vibrant and alive.  I can feel it in every cell of my being.   There’s an enthusiasm for the day rushing and moving in me like fast flowing rapids.  Last night in my teleclass we worked on allowing our full connection to ALL that is. I feel that work being put into form in this blog post.  We are part of All that is, one with ALL that is and yet we hold beliefs within us that deny that.  I used the term allowing – because the connection is already there.  It’s impossible not to be connected, not to be a part of ALL that is.  

It is possible to dim our awareness of that connection.  Our beliefs are the dimmer switch.  They are the fog of our awareness.  It is our beliefs that create our reality.  If you think that you must work hard to have what you want, then you will be working hard for it.  If you grow up with hard work all around you, that belief may have been logged into your consciousness just from what you saw and felt around you.  And it may not.  It may be that you saw everyone working so hard that you declared within yourself that you’d never work that hard to make money, and so you don’t. 

One of the beauties of ThetaHealing is that beliefs can be cleared and new beliefs, ones that direct us where we want to go, can be installed in our consciousness.  A common belief for people to whom spirituality is important, is that business (making money) and spirituality do not/can not go together.  And if that’s the belief, so goes the reality.  They make their money in something else, and their spirituality is separate.

I met an amazing inspirational, spiritual man recently.  He has mentored and inspired children all his life and raised two sons who grew up to be champions in their lives.  As I listened to his stories I could see and feel him inspiring parents and boys all over this country – and world.  I had a vision of people buying his books and tapes. I could see large crowds listening to what he had to say about how to inspire young men to develop and reach fully into their potential.  His video in my head included seeing all the lives he turned around with his inspiration and motivation. 

This man had all the skills and abilities one needed.  He was an excellent public speaker, presented himself well, was attractive to look at, had a fabulous voice and a creativity of expression that commanded attention.  The background of his spiritual training had given him a focus in the world that was positive and he knew how to manifest success in business.  So, why wasn’t he putting his business skills together with his inspirational/motivational skills already? 

One answer is BELIEFS.  There was a belief that business and spirituality didn’t go together.  (I’m simplifying this a little for this article and so you can clearly understand it.) He also believed that business and pleasure did not go together.  This belief pretty successfully prevents us from doing something we love that gives us pleasure in the doing and having it be a thriving business as well.

Working with this gave me an opportunity to see what happens for the person and also with the people in his external reality.  Prior to clearing the beliefs related to the successful connection of business and spirituality, I could see qualities he possessed, but the full vision had not connected.  After we cleared his beliefs – a few hours after -- my ability to hold the vision I wrote of above came into a sharp clear focus.  It was like pointing the camera, first there’s a fuzzy blurred image, and then the camera auto focus clicks in, and the whole picture is clear, sharp.  Only with the camera you see it. As this focus clicked in I could see it, feel it, hear it, and almost taste it.  His reality changed.  I am connected to that reality and so my reality changed as well.  Others will be having the same response I had.  Now the fog on the runway has cleared.  This is one manifestation that can come in for a landing. 

Earlier in the year I worked with someone who had a belief that if he made money it would be taken away from him.  Again, he had the skills, abilities, talents, know-hows to be a successful consultant.  And somehow he just kept falling short.  This belief that if he made money it would be taken away from his was grounded in a traumatic experience from his childhood.  He had proof, it had happened.  With ThetaHealing it’s possible to resolve these beliefs, reshape them, clear them, change them in whatever manner we choose.  My client felt the difference right away. A month or so later he reported to me that he had earned much more money than in previous months.  The money was flowing now because he knew he could keep it. 

I work on myself pretty much every day using ThetaHealing and my past training in belief work to discover where these hidden beliefs are.  Recently I was in a situation with a friend and I felt my energy close down some.  After we parted I began to look at it.  What had happened. There was nothing in my conscious reality that would have caused this to occur.  I had a friend assist me and we began to dig.  Then I found it.  Somewhere in my memory (which includes memories in the DNA and genes as well as other memories that may be in our subsconscious) I had been in a similar situation and caused someone to be harmed.  That memory acted as a shut off valve for my current energy with this person because I did not want this person to be harmed in any way.  When I cleared this memory I could immediately feel the energy reconnect. I felt a lot easier inside myself, too.

What happens inside you when you read this? Some of you will immediately know what I’m talking about.  Some will be nodding your heads in agreement.  Some will feel confusion, resistance, disbelief.  If you feel defensive, resistant, confused or some other negative emotion, then what I've said had run into a belief of yours that is probably limiting you in some way.  If you’d like to know more, call me (818-590-0062).  I’d love to talk with you about this in greater detail.

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If it’s a brand new day, how do I embrace it? Part 1

A lot of very tuned in folks, including myself, say they can feel a shift in consciousness that has occurred in the last week.  The date for the next shift on the Mayan Calendar is still about 7 or 8 days away.  Probably, like Mercury Retrograde you can feel it a while before.  Has a critical mass has been reached for evolutionary transformation?  Is one outer indicator of a shift the recent election? 

I wrote about that a few days ago – about how new and different I felt and about how the world around me felt changed.  A friend, who is very psychic, says she feels she's shifted to an alternate reality.  I did think that all those feelings of newness would subside.  Instead, each day I awaken, I feel that newness.  What will this beautiful new day bring?  My whole energy has changed. 

I'm waking up earlier, needing less sleep and feeling so ready to move forward.

For a while now I’m been using ThetaHealing to make radical changes on my inner reality since I know that’s what creates the outer.  Many of you around the world have been making those changes with me in the ThetaSynergy classes and teleclasses.  Thank you for that.  I am so grateful for all of you.  We’ve contributed to each other’s awakening in profound ways and it is an honor and privilege to be a part of that.  I also feel that any changes we make in ourselves is a contribution to the change that is happening on this planet and beyond. 

Now I’m looking at my outer reality.  Does it match this “new” inner?  What do I need to change?  Are there things in my outer reality that are dissonant with the new inner environment?  For me, that’s a resounding yes.  I have THINGS I’m holding onto, that I need to let go of.  I have “STUFF” that’s not me anymore.  I’m suspecting that even some of the ways I use to make a living are asking to be changed.  Since this has been in my thoughts, I decided that I would explore it.  My best friend and fellow blogger, Charlotte, is visiting me right now and this has been a topic of conversation and emails between us throughout this past week.

Tuning in to the vision of where you desire your life to be, what you desire in your ”new day” of this life is often difficult.  I was listening to a speaker a few months ago who said that most people have no idea what they want in their lives.  That if you ask people to write a list of 100 things they want or desire, most of them cannot do it. So that’s another of those 100 list challenges I decided to take.  And yes, I did many more than 100.  I think I finally stopped close to 200.  I included things, and feelings, and experiences – just really leaped for it.  Scuba diving in the Galapagos, walking with a lover on a beautiful beach at sunset, having my car repaired, creating expanded Theta clients and classes, learning, growing, taking new classes, being able to give back to people who have given to me, etc.  To me it was like diving into possibility.   

And in this first post, that’s my invitation to you.  Dive into the possibility of your brand new day, brand new life, brand new beingness.  Allow your imagination to explode beyond any of your past boundaries.  With full participation becomes both a process of manifestation and creation as well as a digging process to see what it is that’s holding you back. 

In the process, be very aware of those other voices as well.  The ones that say things like, “You can’t have that.” Or otherwise mention reasons your heart can’t have what it’s asking for.  This “negativity” is a roadmap showing you where and what blocks your ascent into the new.

Years ago I helped design and teach a class called, Embracing the NEW.  It was a leadership class for corporate executives, and during the research for that class I found a book called Deep Change by Robert Quinn.  There was a quote in that book that has always stayed with me.  Paraphrased it goes something like: going through a process of deep change or embracing the new is “like walking naked into the land of uncertainty.”

Over 15 years later my perspective says that if we could walk naked into that land, we’d be lucky.  Most of us are carrying so many pounds of baggage, so many cords and chains we’ve collected over the years that “nakedness” seems a dim possibility. 

Enter our hero, ThetaHealing.

We can use Theta Healing to discard/release/resolve/clear the burden, chains and baggage.  Come get naked with me, metaphorically, of course, so that we can clothe ourselves in new garments much more representative of our magnificence.

Yes, it takes some work. 

First step.

You must be willing to fantasize about the new and be honest about what comes up in the process.  Here’s how that works.

List 10 to 100 things, feelings, experiences that you want for your new life.  As you write them, make a column on the paper to the right side called titled negative thoughts and jot down anything negative that comes up when you write what you want.  Here’s an example.

Things, Feelings, Experiences,                                           Negative feelings/thoughts
Visions I have for my new life

 

1.  Underwater photography and Scuba diving                     don’t have the money for the
                                                                                        equipment, Need new wet
                                                                                        suit, California waters tooo cold

 2.  Walking on the beach at sunset with a lover                               Desire lover who loves beach
feeling the joy and enthusiasm of a day well lived                           don’t live close enough to a
                                                                                                                    beach

I’m making this up, but you get the idea.

Once you have your list, then you can dig for what this means.

Re No. 1.  You might want to check. 

My abundance is limited. 

Source of all that is, is limited in what it will provide to me. 

My vision of myself as an underwater photographer is limited. 

All that is provides underwater photography equipment. (here, if you muscle test a no, that needs clearing.)

 There’s more there, but this will do for an example.   

Re. NO. 2.  What’s the worst thing that would happen if I did live near a beach and have a lover? 

Well, I might not get anything done. 

To which I might extrapolate and check,

I can be productive and live in a beautiful place at the same time. 

I can be productive and have a lover at the same time. 

Or I can be productive and have a deeply fulfilling relationship at the same time. 

A no on any of these can take your vision off course.   

Also check, I know how to and what it feels like to balance love, relationships and productivity. 

I'm available for a lover

I'm willing to be open to my life changing.

I'm open to productivity in a new way.

I told you this would take work.  Or play should you choose to look at it that way. 

As I was writing this I figured I’d better check it for myself. What do you know?  I got some no’s.  So I'm doing all of the above and more below as downloads Read each one out loud and then say YES out loud.  Saying YES means you’ll also be taught how to and what if feels like, that it’s possible, and that it’s safe and you are worthy and deserving.  You’ll also receive all the inner and outer resources and know how to actualize this new learning in each moment of your life. 

 I have Source and Creator’s perspective, definition and understanding of a new vision for myself and mine is the same.

I am open to seeing, feeling, hearing and clearing the blocks to my new vision.  

I have Source and Creator’s perspective, definition and understanding of productivity, balancing love and productivity, balancing relationships and productivity and mine is the same. 

I know how to and what is feels like to balance love, relationships and productivity at the same time. 

We'll go through the second step later in the week. 

What are ThetaHealing Downloads?  They are an energy that I put out into the universe in a Theta state in connection with the Source of all that is and since we are all connected, to receive this energy all you must do is say YES.  If you don’t want it, say nothing and it will bypass you.  It’s the same energy I use in my classes and private ThetaHealing Sessions that make changes in the limiting beliefs you may hold.  Want to know more, call me at 818-590-0062. 

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It's a Brand New DAY!

Everybody look around
'Cause there's a reason to rejoice you see
Everybody come out
And let's commence to singing joyfully
Everybody look up
And feel the hope that we've been waiting for

Everybody's glad
Because our silent fear and dread is gone
Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?

by Luther Vandross, from the Broadway Musical and Film, The Wiz.

This song has been going through my head since I heard CNN call the election for Barack Obama.  And not only am I hearing it, which in itself is unusual since music going through my head is a rare occurrence, but I'm feeling it in my energy, in my body, in my approach to life and how I'm seeing the world around me.  My energy has changed. And it changed in a moment. That change wasn't just in me.  It's a change in the collective consciousness of this country.  It's a change that is being felt around the world.  It is an energy that says, "Yes, I can."

Up to the actual election, I could not, would not, allow myself to think for more than a second or two about how I'd feel if the election went the other way.  In the moments when I did go there, I'd feel myself crumble in defeated emotion. Then, I'd would pull myself out of it and focus on the now and what I could do to see the country I love move to and be in a different place.  The thought of another 4 years like the last 8 was too devastating a place to go within me.  I'd been disappointed in 2000 when the election was stolen from Al Gore and even more devastated when another election was stolen in 2004, though I was not as invested with the 2004 candidate.  For 8 years I've watched a country I love sink further and further into an energy of .... I'm stopping here to search for a word, what word.  What have we been sinking into?  Hopelessness?  Resignedness?  Defeatedness?  Despair?  (yes, I know several of these are constructed words and they convey the feeling of what I want to say.)

As I walked with a friend to the home of another friend to watch election returns, we talked about these feelings.  The intense emotions that came up whenever we momentarily entertained the alternative to an Obama win.  What was it that was so scary, so looming with that possibility.  And, we hit on it. The word was HOPE.  An Obama loss would have meant, at least to us, a loss of hope.  As we rode up in the elevator we looked at what we'd do if that happened.  Were could we go? The feeling was that in that scenario maybe we didn't want to stay in this country?  Finally we settled on Bali and then turned our attention toward hope and the prospect of A Brand New Day.

Now, you need to know, I'm a Virginia Country Girl, raised in the coal-mining country of Southwestern Virginia, near the Kentucky, West Virginia and Tennessee borders.   Virginia history, Revolutionary War History, the forming of this great nation has been taught to me since I was in the 4th grade.  While I am embarrassed by some of the compromises that were made in the forming of our great nation (especially those about continuing slavery), I know that the flame of freedom and spirit has burned sometimes brighter, sometimes less bright in this country for over 200 years.  In the last 8 years I've felt that freedom fire die down to just a few coals.  We have willingly given up more and more of the rights our forefathers fought for. The Bill of Rights is in shreds.  We've allowed human rights to be usurped by religious rightists but that's a whole other blog post. 

With this election I feel the freedom fire coming alive again. From all accounts I know we, as a planet, are in the process of transformation and I feel this election is just one of the advances in that transformation.  A healing is occurring and Obama in his acceptance speech put it this way ---

It's the answer spoken by young and old, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican, black, white, Hispanic, Asian, Native American, gay, straight, disabled and not disabled - Americans who sent a message to the world that we have never been a collection of Red States and Blue States: we are, and always will be, the United States of America.

It's the answer that led those who have been told for so long by so many to be cynical, and fearful, and doubtful of what we can achieve to put their hands on the arc of history and bend it once more toward the hope of a better day.   link

I just read this out loud to another friend, and started crying. These are tears of release of the despair, powerlessness and hopelessness. These are also the tears of joy, hope and a focus on what can be. 

We are a part of this change, this transformation.  Just now let's take a moment to send our love, thoughts and prayers to the people who will be leading this change.  For me that is sending unconditional love from the Source and Creator of All that is, which is really sending pure energy that can be used to bring a new reality into form.  And in my heart, I will hold the vision of a new reality that is in the highest and best interest of ALL the different segments of this beautiful country.  And that that new reality can be created with ease, grace and compassion.  We are all connected, we are all part of one energy -- not just city wide, or county wide, or country wide, or even world wide, maybe beyond universe wide. 

I just sat staring at the last paragraph thinking about what it means.  How would you treat someone you didn't like, if they indeed were a part of you?  Probably much like we treat ourselves.  So, how do you treat yourself?  Are you critical, judging, sometimes downright mean?  Or do you treat yourself with compassion, love, understanding, forgivingness? 

It's a brand new day.  Let's have that day start in our hearts, right now with the way we treat ourselves and let that change reverberate outward. Take a moment and look in the mirror.  For some of us our first thoughts might be critical.  Just say "cancel" to those and take a deeper look.  Tell that friend in the mirror that you love him or her.  Spend 30 seconds telling yourself what you appreciate about yourself, what you are thankful for in yourself.  I started this practice a couple of years ago -- as I started ThetaHealing and now I smile whenever I look in the mirror.  I love who I see there.  I enjoy her beauty, her wisdom, her passion and her creativity.  The change that is happening in the world begins in each of our hearts.  

We have a new president elect who represents all of us, is a mix of all of us in his genes.  He has the inspiration and we have the perspiration.  Change begins within each of us and I do feel it begins in how we treat ourselves.

Downloads: 

If you'd like the Source/Creator of all that is perspective, definition and understanding of loving yourself unconditionally, say YES out loud right now. 

And if you'd like your perspective, definition and understanding of loving yourself unconditionally to be the same as Source/Creator?God's, say YES out loud right now. 

And if you'd like to be taught how to and what it feels like to love yourself unconditionally and to appreciative yourself fully, say YES right now. 

And if you'd like to know how to and what it feels like to send others unconditional love, just say yes out loud now. 

What are ThetaHealing Downloads?  They are an energy that I put out into the universe in a Theta state in connection with the Source of all that is and since we are all connected, to receive this energy all you must do is say YES.  If you don’t want it, say nothing and it will bypass you.  It’s the same energy I use in my classes and private ThetaHealing Sessions that make changes in the limiting beliefs you may hold.  Want to know more, call me at 818-590-0062. 

Want more of this energy?  Want to clear any hopelessness and despair you've been feeling because of what's happening around you?  Want to know how to and what if feels like to move forward in balance and harmony?  Now's a good time I have a holiday special.

Private Session Holiday Special

Interested in private sessions, I’m starting my holiday special now!  From now till the new year, I’m reducing my hourly price to $80.00 an hour and offering a special of 4 Private sessions for the price of 3.  Call me to take advantage of this.  818-590-0062.

Sign up for a package by Nov. 9 and receive free Bonus. Those who sign-up for this private session package within the next week (through November 9) will also receive my audio mp3 of 50 plus abundance downloads for free.

Preorder the 50 plus abundance downloads mp3 for just $9.98. Call to pre-order, link will be up soon. 

When the mp3 is complete it will go for $14.97

New Teleclass has a few spaces left.

There’s still time and a few spaces left for my upcoming teleclass – It’s all about YOU!  It starts November 11, 6-8 p.m. Pacific.  All classes are recorded so you get everything we work with whether or not you can be on the call.  Sign up for the 6-class series and you get one class free.  Click here to learn more about it.

6-class series is $125.00  Register here.

 Sign up for individual classes, $26.00 for Nov. 11.  Register here.

More of It's a Brand New Day

Hello world
It's like a different way of living now
And thank you world
We always knew that we'd be free somehow
In harmony
And show the world that we've got liberty

It's such a change
For us to live so independently
Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?

Everybody be glad
Because the sun is shining just for us
Everybody wake up
Into the morning into happiness
Hello world
It's like a different way of living now
And thank you world
We always knew that we'd be free somehow
In harmony
And show the world that we've got liberty

It's such a change
For us to live so independently
Freedom, you see, has got our hearts singing so joyfully
Just look about
You owe it to yourself to check it out
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?
Can't you feel a brand new day?

Creating a runway so your manifestations can land -- Part 1

Imagine the skies around LAX when there’s a traffic back up.  Have you ever seen it?  Like a mirror of the LA freeways at rush hour – only in the skies – seemingly hundreds of airplanes circling in a holding pattern.  The first time I saw it I wondered, for a moment, if the city was being attacked by aliens. 

What if the ethereal space around each of us looks like an LAX backup? All these things we've been asking for, praying for, treating for just waiting for an open runway that allows landing in our reality.

Often I hear my students talk about putting out a “manifestation” and seeing it and feeling it, and then it doesn’t come – after a little bit.  What to do then?  What’s going on.

How are you fogging in your runnway? 

Our beliefs play such a crucial role in what we can manifest and so does our attitude.  Both are able to stop the manifestation process in mid-air – or create manifestation traffic back ups to our reality. In this post I'm going to explore attitude.  In the next one, I'll take on the role of beliefs how easy it is for our beliefs to land.

Attitude – What is your attitude?

Do you get pissed off when you don’t get what you were manifesting for?  Angry? Resentful? Defiant?  Self-pitying?  Do you hop on the victim train?  “I never get what I want.”  “It never works for me.”  “What’s the use.” (This used to be one of my favorites.)  “God/the universe/the source hates me.”  Do you cry and shout and scream, or do you yell or quake in fear and anxiety that you are not getting this thing you need/want/desire?  “If I don’t get blank, my world will end.”  “It will be a disaster.”  “I’ll never make it.” "I don't want to go on." On and on it goes.  I bet you have a few favorites you could add to the mix.

Every one of the above is a traffic stopper.  It so fogs in your runway that nothing will land and in the process you’ll be creating more of what you already have. 

What if the universe wants to give us what we ask for?  So we ask for money or that new car, or our most compatible soul mate or better health or, or, or – you fill it in.  And then, when it/he/she doesn’t arrive within our prescribed time limit, we begin to exclaim something like “I knew I’d never get __________!”

Or, what if we get resentful because someone else seems to be getting what we want and we aren’t.  Of course, in our judgment we are more worthy than they.  We’ve been asking longer, been more faithful, etc.  Whatever! Ever stop to think that something much more fabulous for you might be around the corner?  

Unless of course, you stop its arrival with your resentment.

What do all these sum up to?  Bad attitude and more traffic stoppers!  In addition, there are probably some beliefs stashed deep within our subconscious that send out different messages to the universe.  If you truly believe and/or tell yourself you are a loser, then you are not going to win, or you’ll win and then lose it.  Either way it fulfills the belief. 

As you can tell from the size of this post, this is a huge subject. Let us focus on attitude in this post. Part 2 is about changing our limiting beliefs.

First Step to having a runway-creating attitude.  Gratitude!

Yes, an attitude of gratitude in your life makes every moment of now a much better place to be.  Instead of looking to the future – to what you want, focus on what you have.  And be thankful for that.  If you have a business and want more clients, take a look at your current behavior.  Are you thanking God/the Universe/Creator/The source for the clients you have now?  Are you grateful for the business you have now? 

I can almost hear some folks as they read this.  “Yes, but!!  Yes, but the clients I have now are so difficult, controlling, picky, can’t see their own beauty, can’t see my excellent work, won’t let go of beliefs so they’ll heal, etc.  I want clients that are open and receptive and appreciate me.” 

So, are you appreciating the clients you have now?  Are you grateful for the lessons that your difficult clients bring to you?  I’ve said this before in my blog posts and it’s time for it again.  What you resist, persists.  And if you resist your current clients for example, or your current situation, you’ll just get more of the same. 

There is so much to be grateful for all around us.  If you are reading this, you are on a computer which means you have access to that computer and the internet.  Be thankful for that.  If you are sitting at a desk, say thank you to the Universe or whomever you thank that you have a desk at which to sit. 

Someone once taught me to locate my first priority!  What is your first priority?  What did you think of here?  Put your hand over your mouth and pinch your nose closed so that no air gets in or out.  In about 40 to 60 seconds your first priority in life will become very obvious.  Yes, breathing.  To read this you must be breathing, so be thankful for that.  It means you are alive. And no matter how bad things are, if you are alive, it can change. 

Right now, stop reading this and make a list of the 10 things you are most grateful for.  I’ll do the ones that come to me in the moment.  That I’m alive and healthy. That I have a wonderful little house to live in, with a fabulous landlady, some very special friends in my life, 3 wonderful cats, Thetahealing in my life, a computer so I can write this, that I’ve been honored by the universe to be allowed to learn all that I have learned up to now, that I have businesses that I enjoy, people I love who do my classes, that I can write, that I’m able to write this in this moment.  I can go on and on. 

I took on a challenge of writing a list of 100 things I was grateful for in my life. Once I got to 100 I felt soo great, that I just kept going.  More and more things I wanted to acknowledge kept popping into my head. I finally stopped because I wanted to start something else, not because I ran out of things to write.  Just writing the 10 items above lifted my spirits even higher and I was already in a great place.  Make gratitude a moment to moment practice.  Walk through you house, your job, when you are in traffic and locate things to be grateful for. 

Traffic, you say!  That’ll never happen.  Be grateful for traffic?  No Way! 

Why are you in traffic?  Are you heading to your job?  Be grateful for the job, and for the car, and for the gas that is allowing you to be in this traffic.  Are you going to meet someone you love?  Be grateful for that.  I listen to books on tape, so when I see that I’m going to be slowed by traffic, it just means I get to listen to more of the tapes. And I’m grateful for that because I enjoy it. 

I may be being a bit pedantic about this.  I get such arguments from folks when I mention the "G" word.  Seems they want to make a list of all the reasons not to be grateful or a list of all that’s wrong.  You can do that if you want.  I’ve just found that it’s much more effective to focus on what I have to be grateful for. 

If you want to manifest something, here’s a great place to start.  Let’s say it’s money.  Sit down and write 10 times – Thank you for the money I have now and for the more that comes to me now.  IF it's love, then write Thank you for the love I have in my life now and for the more that comes to me now.  While you are doing that, notice the little voices in your head and what they say.  Write those down too, and we’ll deal with those in Part 2 of this blog post.  Most likely, those are your beliefs that are tying up the traffic on your runway. 

Developing an attitude of gratitude definitely begins to lay the foundation for the runway so your manifestations/blessings can land. So here's my challenge.  Begin your day with 10 things you are grateful for.  End you day with 10 things you are grateful for. And take that 100 things you are grateful for challenge and keep it handy so that you can re-read it when you need it. 

ThetaHealing Downloads:

If you’d like the Creator of All that Is/Source of All that Is/God’s/the Universe’s perspective, definition and understanding of attitude, say YES out loud right now.  And if you’d like your perspective, definition and understand to be the same as Creator of All that Is/Source of All that Is/God’s/the Universe’s say YES again. 

If you’d like the Creator of All that Is/Source of All that Is/God’s/the Universe’s perspective, definition and understanding of gratitude, say YES out loud right now.  And if you’d like your perspective, definition and understand to be the same as Creator of All that Is/Source of All that Is/God’s/the Universe’s say YES again. 

 What are ThetaHealing Downloads?  They are an energy that I put out into the universe in a Theta state and since we are all connected, to receive this energy all you must do is say YES.  If you don’t want it, say nothing and it will bypass you.  It’s the same energy I use in my classes and private ThetaHealing Sessions that make changes in the limiting beliefs you may hold.  Want to know more, call me at 818-590-0062. 

Private Session Holiday Special

Interested in private sessions, I’m starting my holiday special now!  From now till the new year, I’m reducing my hourly price to $80.00 an hour and offering a special of 4 Private sessions for the price of 3.  Call me to take advantage of this.  818-590-0062.

Sign up for a package by Nov. 9 and receive free Bonus. Those who sign-up for this private session package within the next week (through November 9) will also receive my audio mp3 of 50 plus abundance downloads for free.

Preorder the 50 plus abundance downloads mp3 for just $9.98. Call to pre-order, link will be up soon. 

When the mp3 is complete it will go for $14.97

New Teleclass has a few spaces left.

There’s still time and a few spaces left for my upcoming teleclass – It’s all about YOU!  It starts November 11, 6-8 p.m. Pacific.  All classes are recorded so you get everything we work with whether or not you can be on the call.  Sign up for the 6-class series and you get one class free.  Click here to learn more about it.

6-class series is $125.00  Register here.

 Sign up for individual classes, $26.00 for Nov. 11.  Register here.